The Golden Thread: What Are You Really Weaving? 🧵

Your Intention Is the Real Alchemy

We know now that fear can be an invisible puppeteer, pulling the strings of our life and keeping us stuck in jobs, relationships or situations we know are not for our highest good.
But once you see the strings—you can cut them.
Fear ties the threads that keep you stuck. Intention is the scissors that cut you free.

A phrase I used to believe wholeheartedly was: “It’s not your thoughts that matter—it’s your actions.” (Even that song lyric: “There’s no such thing as bad thoughts, only your actions talk.”) And for a long time, I lived by it.

But recently, I’ve been realising something deeper.
What if it’s not your actions that shape your life… but your intention behind them?

We make hundreds of decisions a day. From how we brush our teeth to how we respond to an email. But most of these decisions happen on autopilot. It’s only when something unexpected shakes us that we pause long enough to wonder: “Wait—why am I doing this?”

Some autopilot decisions are harmless—like putting on both socks before both shoes (unless you’re my fiancé, who does one sock and one shoe at a time… I’ve made peace with marrying a psychopath).

But others—like staying in a job we know is draining us, or saying yes when we mean no—those decisions shape the entire trajectory of our lives.

And when those decisions are being made without conscious intention, it’s not really us who’s choosing.

The Golden Thread: What Are You Really Weaving?

In Fires of Alchemy, intention is the golden thread we weave through every choice. It’s not a list of goals. It’s not a schedule or a vision board. It’s the energy—the why—behind your actions.

“Intention shapes perception—where you focus determines the thread you strengthen.”

Even when you think you’re just “going with the flow,” intention is still there. If you’re not consciously choosing it, your subconscious is—usually based on fear, survival patterns, or social conditioning.

This brings us to a powerful realisation:
You’re always weaving.

The question is: With what thread?

Light and Shadow: The Threads Within Us

This loom we’re weaving on? It holds more than just gold.

There’s also the dark thread—fear, trauma, shame, scarcity, unspoken grief. Not bad. Not broken. Just unexamined.

Our lives are tapestries of both light and dark. Healing doesn’t mean erasing the dark thread—it means weaving it with awareness.

I’ve spent a lot of time untangling my own. As a recovering people-pleaser, I know the feeling of saying “yes” when I want to say “no,” only to spend the evening burnt out and resentful.

That’s the dark thread in action.

But here’s the reframe:
Once I recognised the pattern, I could ask myself…

“What is my intention here? Am I saying yes from guilt—or from love?”

When I consciously say yes—because I want to, because I have the energy—I actually enjoy myself. I don’t cancel last minute or feel drained. That’s the golden thread weaving freely.

(And if I say no, I no longer sit at home with guilt or FOMO. I rest, knowing I chose well.)

The Moment Everything Changed: A Personal Story

One of the biggest shifts for me came when I finally asked:
“What is my real intention for being here?”

For most of my life, I believed I was here to help people. That belief led me to become a nurse. But over time, something started to feel… off. I noticed myself growing resentful. Not because I didn’t care, but because I was helping people who didn’t want to help themselves.

I began asking for something deeper.
Something more aligned.

I asked for a job.
But what I got was… this book.

It came through in whispers. Through tarot cards, YouTube videos, dreams, nudges. And eventually, it became Fires of Alchemy. The thing I didn’t know I was searching for until it arrived.

That’s the power of intention.
It doesn’t always bring what you expect.
It brings what you’re ready to become.

Intention in the Big Picture: Why We’re Here (Maybe)

I won’t pretend to have all the answers. But here’s what I believe—at least for now:

We come to Earth like players entering a game. We forget where we came from so we can fully experience what it means to choose. To love. To lose. To remember.

I don’t believe in a heaven above and a hell below.
I believe we build both right here.

Every day, with every choice.

If that’s true, then what if intention isn’t just a nice idea?
What if it’s the steering wheel of your entire life?

What if your soul is watching, learning, growing—not with judgment, but with deep curiosity?

What would change if you lived every day as if you were going to remember every choice… forever? How do I want to craft my story?

The Intention Check-In

Let this be your first practice:

Before you do something—big or small—pause and ask:
👉 “Is this coming from fear… or intention?”

Some examples:

• Posting online: Am I sharing from connection, or looking for validation?

• Saying yes: Am I excited… or afraid to disappoint someone?

• Choosing rest: Am I listening to my body, or avoiding something uncomfortable?

You don’t need to have the perfect answer. Just pause. Ask. Begin to notice.

You’ll be amazed what changes when you start weaving with awareness.

The Three Forces of Alchemy

We’ll explore more soon, but here’s a preview:

🧵 Intention is the thread.
🔍 Perception is the lens.
🔥 Transmutation happens in the loom.

We’ll return to intention in Chapter 5, when we explore how it sharpens intuition.

Final Reflection: A Question for the Loom

The loom is already spinning.

The only question is:
What thread are you weaving with?

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✍️ Journaling Prompt:

“What is one decision I made recently—and what was my true intention behind it?”
→ Reflect on whether it came from love, fear, habit, people-pleasing, or purpose.

🔍 Bonus Reflection Questions:

• “What patterns or habits in my life feel like they’re running on autopilot?”

• “What would shift if I brought more intention into my daily choices?”

• “Where in my life am I choosing from fear rather than clarity?”

If you’re feeling inspired or noticed something you were weaving, why not share below in a comment? 👇